A Moment of Pleasure

May 16, 2007

People fall in love, it’s natural. Some people act upon this emotion and desire while others conceal and control it. One can indeed fall in love and if it is not properly tamed, one can become sick. What does it mean to be love-sick? Being love-sick entails not being able to control oneself, leading to obsessiveness. Often times, the object being obsessed over is not worth the torture one goes through while in love with it. How do we treat this sickness?

If we could prevent this sickness from occurring, then this would be the best technique. For the answer to prevention, let us turn our attention to the Holy Quran, which states, “Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their chastity. That will make for greater purity for them, and Allah is acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their chastity…” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 24:30-31). From this, we can see the best prevention from becoming love-sick is to lower one’s gaze. Lowering one’s gaze is a very effective weapon one can posses while living in the West. It really does make an enourmous difference.

There is a local brother here in Baltimore who was giving a Friday sermon and he reminded us in a very clever way. He mentioned are we going to be naked on the Day of Judgment. How are we going to be naked on the Day of Judgment when we cannot keep our eyes off the half-naked girls in the streets.

We need to become more mindful of what we are freely looking at. It is known that the most beloved places to Allah (SWT) are the masajid, but what are the most hated places to Allah (SWT)? They are the market-places since there is so much fitnah that occurs there. As Muslims, not only should we safeguard ourselves in times of fitnah, but we should prevent ourselves from even being tested in such fitnahs. We should minimize our trips to the shopping malls, bazaars, and other places that entail a high-density of people that are not following the ways of Allah (SWT).

Another way to help one lower one’s gaze is to think of the consequences of that second look. Remember that for every sin we accumulate, we enjoy a moment of pleasure. Nevertheless, that one moment of pleasure leads to a sin being written in our records until the Day of Judgment. Is it worth one moment of pleasure to have its repercussions felt for far longer than that moment. It is the same idea of engulfing foods or drinks that are unlawful. Is that moment of drinking alcohol really worth carrying its burden until we meet Allah (SWT)? How much pleasure do we get from that second look? It is minuscule when we look upon the long-run and what is best for ourselves.

Not only do we need to think of our consequences of the Hereafter while sinning, but we also need to understand the repercussions that exist in this duniya. If we are to follow upon our gaze and act upon it, what are the possibilities? We could advance our relationships from this move. We could become acquaintances, then friends, and eventually more than that person whom we have lust for. Eventually, we could commit zina, become HIV-positive, and have an illegitimate son. The possibilities are endless. One sin would lead to another. We cannot continue to sin. To understand the consequences, we should attempt to erase our bad deeds by doing good ones. Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “…follow up a bad deed with a good one, and it will erase it…” (Tirmidhi).

As Muslims, we need to put our trust in Allah. The Holy Quran says, “Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 65:3). It is necessary for us to put our trust in Allah by showing patience. “Seek Allah’s help with patience and perseverance. It is indeed difficult except upon those who are humble” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 2:45).

Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “Whoever maintains his chastity, does so with the grace of Allah. Whoever finds self-sufficiency does so with what Allah has enriched him. Whoever is patient draws his fortitude from Allah. And no one has been given a gift better or more bountiful than patience” (narrated in Bukhari and Muslim). Therefore, whenever we encounter something unlawful and our desires request us to take a second look, we should show patience as we know that there is something significantly better than the sin upon which are about to embark upon. We should remember Allah (SWT)!

[Taken in part from Shaykh Salman al-Oadah]

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2 Responses to “A Moment of Pleasure”

  1. sister Says:

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  2. Billy Says:

    They say a person’s religion is like a swing sometimes you can be up in the sky or sometimes down or in the middle. Blogs like yours brother, you sort of stumble upon by accident and it’s telling you something about yourself warning you. Even though you will know all that it’s nice to be reminded.


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