Marriage is Obligatory!

May 15, 2007

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 30:21).  

Subhana’Allah, people think they are doing themselves a favor by delaying marriage.  This is not the way of Islam.  The second calipha, Umar (ra), said, “Whoever calls you to eschew marriage is calling you to something other than Islam.”  Umar once saw a man who had never married.  Umar said to him, “Nobody abandons marriage except someone who is either impotent or a flagrant sinner.”   

Marriage is something found in the Sunnah of our beloved Rasoolullah (SAW).  Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “I swear by Allah. I am the most God-fearing and devout person among you; nevertheless I fast as well as break my fast, I pray as well as rest, and I marry women. Whoever desires something other than my Sunnah is not from me” (found in Bukhari).   

We can see from this that for us to be amongst those who love Rasoolullah (SAW) and follow his ways, it is a must upon us to also get married.  This is a proof that there is no celibacy in Islam.  In fact, marriage is an obligation and a religious duty in Islam and it is something that should be done to please Allah (SWT).

Not only is marriage an act of worship, but one would also be rewarded for enjoying their marriage. Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “When one of you has relations with his wife, it is an act of charity. None of you spends anything without Allah rewarding you for it, even a morsel of food that you place in your wife’s mouth.”

In a longer hadith, Rasoolullah (SAW) was asked by the Sahaba, “O Rasoolullah, when one of us fulfils his sexual desire will he have some reward for that?” Rasoolullah (SAW) answered, “Do you not think that were he to act upon it unlawfully he would be sinning? Likewise, if he has acted upon it lawfully he will have a reward”  (narrated in Muslim).

Subhana’Allah, one can see how loving and merciful Allah (SWT) is to his slave in that He will reward us for the pleasures we take in this life, insha’Allah.  

If one is able to get married, one should do so as soon as possible as Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “O assembly of young men, whoever among you has the wherewithal to marry should do so, because it helps to lower the gaze and safeguards the chastity of the private parts. Whoever is not able to marry must fast, because fasting diminishes sexual power” (found in Bukhari).

Therefore, if we are unable to get married at this time, it is important for us to fast so that it may help us in lowering our gaze as we have been commanded to do.  When one actively tries to lower his gaze, it really makes an impact on their lives.  We should all implement this important practice (especially including myself).   Those who safeguard their private parts, except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess, for (in their case) they are free from blame” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran 23:5-6).

Let us complete half of our deen by marrying.  Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”

Indeed, it is incumbent upon us to search for the righteous sister when we marry.  Abu Hurairah (ra) narrated that Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser” (found in Bukhari).  Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr (ra) that Rasoolullah (SAW) said, “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman” (found in Muslim).

Therefore, let us not delay our marriage and may Allah (SWT) grant us all righteous wives and families.  Ameen.  Insha’Allah, I will close with a couple of verses from the Holy Quran:

And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 16:72).

The believers, males and females, are partners of one another; they shall jointly enjoin all that is good and counsel against all that is evil” (Translation of the Meaning of the Holy Quran, 9:71).


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