Working Through Obstacles
October 15, 2009
My last post, Companionship, discussed the importance of who are our friends and how we are very much similar to those people whom we love and spend time with. After all, Rasoolullah (SAW) said “Shall I tell you who is the best of you?” “Yes,” replied the Sahaba. He (SAW) said, “Those who remind you of Allah when you see them.” He (SAW) went on to say, “Shall I tell you who is the worst of you?” ”Yes,” they replied. He said, “Those who go about slandering, causing mischief between friends in order to separate them, and desiring to lead the innocent into wrong action” (Bukhari). However, does this mean we isolate and polarize ourselves from society? No, in general, we should strive and struggle to benefit ourselves and others around us. Consider the benefical words of Ibn al-Qayyim:
Know that the greatest of losses for YOU is to be pre-occupied with ONE who will bring you nothing but a loss in your time with Allah – the Mighty, the Majestic – and being cut-off from Him. Wasting your time with such a person. Weakening of your energy, and the dispersing [disbanding, separating] of your resolve [steadfastness, determination]. When you are tested with this – and you must be tested with this – deal with this person according to how Allah would wish, and be patient with him as much as possible. Get closer to Allah and His Pleasure by way of this person. Make your getting together with him something to benefit from, NOT something to incur a loss from.
Be with him as if you are a man who is on a road who was stopped by another man, who then asks you to take him on your journey. Make sure that you are the one who gives him a ride, and that he is not the one giving you the ride. If he refuses, and there is nothing to gain from travelling with him, DO NOT stop for him. Bid him farewell, and do not even turn back to look at him, as he is a highway robber, regardless of who he really is. Save your heart, be wary [cautious, guarded] of how you spend your days and nights.
DO NOT let the Sun set [death approach] before you arrive at your DESTINATION.
Excerpts taken from Imam Ibn al-Qayyim’s book Al-Waabil as-Sayyib
Companionship
October 7, 2009
Excerpts taken from Lumm ad-Durr al-Manthoor on the subject of Companionship:(1)
Abu Hurairah – may Allah be pleased with him – said, the Messenger of Allaah [sallal laahu alaihi wa sallam] said, · A person is upon the Deen – religion of his friend, so let each one of you look who you befriend.(2)
Ibn Mas’ood – may Allah be pleased with him – said, (3) · Indeed a person walks alongside and accompanies the one whom he loves and who is like him.
Abu ad-Dardaa – may Allah be pleased with him – said, (4) · It is from the understanding of a person that he chooses those whom he walks with, whom he visits, and whom he sits with.
Sulaimaan bin Daawood – may Allah have mercy on him – said,(5) · Do no pass a judgment over anyone with anything until you see whom he befriends.
Moosaa bin Uqbah, the Syrian approached Baghdad and this was mentioned to Imam Ahmad – may Allah have mercy on him. So it was said,(6) · Look at whose residence he goes to and with whom he resides and finds shelter.
Imam Al-Awzaa’ee – may Allah have mercy on him – said,(7) · Whoever hides his innovation from us will not be able to hide his companionship from us.
Al-A’mash – may Allah haver mercy on him – said, The Salaf – Our Predecessors would not ask anything more about a person than,(8) · Who he walks with, who he visits, and who he associates with amongst the people.
Muhammad bin Ubaid al-Ghulaabee – may Allah have mercy on him – said,(9) · The People of Desires hide everything except their intimate friendship and companionship.
Related: Who are Your Friends?
References:
(1) Excerpts taken from Lumm ad-Durr al-Mathoor from the chapter titled, ‘The Salaf would make a judgment of an individual by his companionship’ by Jamaal bin Fareehaan al-Haarithee, checked & revised by Shaikh Saalih al-Fawzaan – Hafidahullah.
(2) Saheeh, refer to Silsilah as-Saheehah of al-Albaani, Hadith No. 927.
(3) al-Ibaanah, 2/476.
(4) al-Ibaanah, 2/477.
(5) al-Ibaanah, 2/464.
(6) al-Ibaanah, 2/480.
(7) al-Ibaanah, 2/476.
(8) al-Ibaanah, 2/478.
(9) al-Ibaanah, 2/482.